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Press Release for Sandwiched: Pass the Peanut Butter and Jelly

 

LUBBOCK, TX – April 10, 2008

“Sandwich generation? What an interesting term for people who are caring for their children and their parents at the same time. In fact, people who care for their children, their aging parents, and their aging grandparents are club sandwiches! Sandwich generation refers to the dilemma of meeting the needs and desires of two generations. Sandwiched…one generation on one side of you and another generation on the other side of you. Sandwiched…pulled in two different directions.”

Dr. Beth Robinson has experienced living in a sandwiched generation first hand. From those chaotic times she has produced a book, Pass the Peanut Butter and Jelly. These delightful vignettes are fun to read, but also carry a powerful insight into family dynamics. She tells about quilting with her grandmother, roofing a house for her grandparents, caring for her invalid grandfather, and joining her siblings in cleaning the long-neglected kitchen of a once-grand cook who lost her abilities. Her stories are both touching and funny.

Dr. Robinson was fortunate to have a close family wherein the generations loved and cared for one another. She writes,

“From my front row seat I learned…

· Faith is more important than finances.

· Peanut butter, mustard, and pickle sandwiches are a complete meal.

· Loving someone can be exhausting and frustrating.

· Reds and whites aren’t a good combination for laundry.

· Tears aren’t always bad.

· Wearing a wig backwards makes a definite fashion statement.

· Nobody wants to clean the toilets.

· Chaos is a form of landscaping.

· Being a servant is what you do when no one outside your family acknowledges it.

· Bodies decay, but souls are eternal.”

During the early years in Beth’s family, a conversation with her brother would be, “It’s my turn” “It’s my turn.” “You already had a turn.””You’ve had two turns.” “It’s not fair. Give me my turn!” As they matured, their conversations changed. While sitting with their grandfather in the hospital, the conversation was, “I’ll take the first turn.” “I’ll take the first turn.” “You need to get your rest.” “Your need your rest too.” “I don’t mind taking the first turn.” “I don’t mind either.” “Are your sure?” “I’m sure. You can have the next turn.” Other experiences brought similar growth among the family members.

In the United States, from 1900 to the year 2000, life expectancy increased from 47 to 76 years. This has produced a new social pattern. Studies vary widely on the number of families who are sandwiched, but range from 9% to as high as 35%. With the boomer generation soon reaching age 65, that percentage will continue to increase dramatically.

All of these families can use a little humor, some encouragement, and a few tips along the way to making the process not only work, but also to include some joy.

Dr. Beth Robinson is the Graduate Director of Behavioral Sciences at Lubbock Christian University and has a private counseling practice specializing in traumatized children. She also has written three other books and developed a coloring book, “God Made Me, the Safe Touch Book,” that teaches children about sexual safety and appropriateness. Dr. Robinson is a popular speaker and trainer for both lay and professional groups.

Pass the Peanut Butter and Jelly is available from Dr. Robinson’s web site: www.drbethrobinson.com or from www.amazon.com and other online resources.





3 Responses


  1. 1 Donna Ritterq Sep 28th, 2008 at 9:28 am

    I agree with you and would want to make the most of my time left. I would also want to leave with no regrets.

    I would appreciate our linking to each other’s websites if that’s ok with you!

    Donna

  2. 2 vjollca Sep 29th, 2008 at 8:40 am

    It was so interesting story I am a Teacher of 3 grade in a private school in Kosova and I thing like you dear Dr.Beth we must thing about these children with these problems in their house we must help them in any way they need, I hope you understand my English language .
    Key of a positive world and our future is NOT stop thinking of problems any problems of children in world because is not like you work with happy and loved child and from permisive family like you work with children with represive family , we must help them so early not to be late for them they are most important thing in this world but we must not just think but we must do that what is the best for them in practice , to be their live more easy and not so hard because how we educate them like infant or from prenatal periode they will be like these a factor in their social life and will grow their family in that atmosphere with a positive or negative influence in this wonderful world .
    But I see that we make them like a robot and not like a human been we work, we dont have time for them to love to learn them how to live their life so lovely WE WORK ALL DAY but we dont think never for whom we do that money and everything for our robots , or for our lovely child …………………

  1. 1 Kennith Trackback on Aug 8th, 2008 at 9:36 am

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